Asked by Anonymous
I hope this message finds you well. I apologize for the late response. Here are some websites you can browse and although they’re mainly rental outfits, you can get an idea of what a wedding guest would probably wear:
Hope this helps! Happy Diwali and New Year!
Asked by Anonymous
I haven’t actually found many panetars available online, but maybe you can try cbazaar.com, utsavfashion.com, sheetalindia.com, homeindia.com. I’m not really sure about the quality since I’ve never purchased any sarees or lehenga cholis from these sites.
You can also re-visit the link for more ideas:
Asked by Anonymous
Congratulations! I don’t know if I can be much of a help since I had a Hindu Gujarati wedding, and I’m not very familiar with Islamic bridal wear. You might want to do a search for “shararas” or “ghararas” which are commonly worn at Pakistani weddings.
Oh, and I’ve been married for some time = Mrs. Dulhan
Hope this helps, and best wishes for your wedding day!
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Asked by Anonymous
I’m glad to see that you’ve found my blog helpful!
Some common accessories are jewelry, shoes, bangles, and possibly a bridal clutch/decorated purse. Also you might want to buy peer (bridal bindis), hair accessories/decorative broaches. Depending on where you/your family is from in South Asia, you may have different traditional jewelry and other accessories (i.e. toe rings, hath panja/hath phool) — You should check with your parents, relatives, or elders in your community if you are unsure about traditional bridal wear from your region or country in S. Asia.
I hope this helps!
Asked by imbringingshreyaback
Thank you for the well wishes!! I’m so excited to finally be married!
To My Readers and Followers:
I’m FINALLY married to the most amazing person - my best friend and my first love! The wedding planning and obstacles leading up to the pre-wedding and wedding events have made this whole process a bumpy ride, but I’m glad we made it!
There are a few wounds with the in-laws that will take time to heal. I’m glad to hear that in-laws (for the most part) are universally known to be difficult. I really do miss my family A LOT, and it saddens me to know that I won’t be seeing them that often. I also hope my in-laws will learn to be more understanding.
Here are a few suggestions/advice that I’ve gathered. I’m sure my family and friends have much more to add to this list since they’re the ones who did a lot of the work behind-the-scenes. I am so extremely thankful to them for making all of the wedding events a great success! The Groom’s family (Jaan-walas) and guests have the nicest things to say about how well each event was organized, how comfortable they felt, and how much fun they had. This makes me so happy!
Here are a few points:
Decor & Hotel Catering Manager - Please finalize all details of the contract with your decorator and make sure they visit the site of the wedding events and review EVERYTHING. There should be no uncertainty regarding what type of decor, centerpieces, mandap, flowers will be at your wedding events. Also, please make sure your Hotel Catering Manager provide information for the decorator regarding each event and vice versa. In your contract, the hotel will usually provide staff (sometimes at an extra cost) to help with certain tasks to help each event run smoothly. If you do not have an event planner, please make sure you have a few helpers of your own to oversee arrangements made by the decorator, and possibly the other vendors.
Storage space - It’s extremely important that you ask the hotel for a safe storage space with a lock to keep all of your items, supplies, and favors for each wedding event. You may have to pay an additional fee unless you’ve worked out an arrangement with your venue.
Favors - If possible, have a few family members or friends pass out one favor/family as the guests are at the Escort card table looking for their seating. This will prevent people from picking up more than one favor and will ensure that all guests receive a favor. People can get greedy with wedding/reception favors so make sure you prevent this from happening.
Cake - It’s extremely important for you to coordinate with your baker an early time for delivery of the cake to ensure that the cake will be on site and in a refrigerator long before the Reception. Please make sure that your baker has brought a decorative cake stand for the cake.
Florist - If you plan on having bouquets, please arrange for your florist to deliver the bouquets early for the bride and bridesmaids to have before their pictures. Also, have your florist decorate your cake with florals soon after the cake arrives from the bakery.
DJ - Please provide a detailed itinerary for the DJ so he/she is aware of the MCs, speeches, performances, as well as the bride/groom & parents’ dance. Make sure your DJ has a digital and CD copy of your first dance song and/or all other music for performances by family or guests.
Food - Please have the Hotel Staff work with the caterers to make sure that there is enough food in all chaffing dishes at all times. It’s important to have a helper to oversee that the caterers and hotel staff are working together to promptly serve and/or replace the chaffing dishes in the buffet. If the caterers have not arranged for food presentation, please talk to the Hotel Catering Manager if they can have their staff elegantly present the food being served during all events.
**Helpers - If you have not hired a wedding planner, please make sure you have enough man and woman power to organize and execute each event — this means carefully reviewing all vendor contracts and assigning helpers to check and see that all of the vendors are complying.
Transportation - I highly suggest that you rent a large van or hire a driver for the large number of family and your guests who will be arriving to the airport and need transportation to their accommodations. Sometimes hiring a driver can get very expensive depending on how many days they are needed, so you might prefer a family member taking responsibility in driving a rental van — There may be limitations/restrictions on your personal car insurance so please be sure to check this out before renting a large passenger van.
Vendors - Please be sure to make proper arrangements for payment to your vendors (they can get extremely grabby and rude!). Please specify when your last payment will be due so there are no misunderstandings between you and your vendor. We had some really bad experiences with a particular vendor embarrassing us in front of our wedding guests saying that they have not been paid. They also came inappropriately dressed, insulted my family, and and some of my family was not able to enjoy themselves during our last event because they needed to settle the finances. From our experience, it was not worth dealing with such an un-professional vendor who caused unnecessary drama and made all of us unhappy. Luckily, I was kept in the dark until much after the fact when the party was winding down and the guests were on their way out.
*All the vendors were paid according to what was arranged on their contracts.
Bride and Groom Clothing - Pack ALL of your wedding/reception clothes far in advance and make sure you label all pieces to make sure nothing is left at home! Also, make sure you pack your hotel overnight clothes so you’re not trying to look for your favorite pair of jeans while you have ba-zillion relatives and female cousins all over your house. It can get extremely confusing and messy and you might not find the things that you had nicely stored in its proper place. I made this mistake and was running around last minute looking for my clothes to wear and my suitcase for my short hotel stay. Luckily, my mom was able to pack me a few things so I had most of my essentials. Thank Goodness for the hotel gift shop! Hm….that’s it for now!
I may update this if I get appropriate feedback from my family. I hope you found this piece helpful!
Love, Mrs. Dulhan
Asked by Anonymous
Thanks! I’ll look into it post-wedding.
Asked by Anonymous
Not yet! Close to the end of the month!! My family is going crazy and they just all want it to be over. Pray for us.
“Outsourced” introduces Indian weddings to an American audience! Catch up on the last episode of Season 1 on Hulu! I really hope they continue for a few more seasons.
Thanks to My Shaadi Obsession for sharing this very useful advice for all future brides:
Please read these points!
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After my recent pdf file post about Emergency Kit, I found an even better list on today’s yahoo video for brides! A much smaller kit consisting of 25 items…
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BWB Colors of the Rainbow!
A few weeks ago, a fellow shaadi blogger Noreen asked me to participate in an Inspiration Board Collaboration inspired by selected PANTONE colors for a South Asian Wedding Rainbow. She’s created a banner for all of the participants called “Brown Wedding Bloggers.” I was randomly selected to use PANTONE 14-0957 TPX Spectra Yellow which reminded me of marigolds! You may already know that marigolds are extremely significant in any South Asian Wedding — I recently read a blog post by Celewire about Marigolds!
Anyways, here’s the long awaited contribution to the Brown Wedding Blogger’s Rainbow of South Asian Weddings!
Please take a look at the BWB ladies’ blogs and Rainbow Inspiration Boards:
Left to Right (inspiration board)
Bottom: Nisha Chandra Events Decor, Wedding Decoration Diyas, Porticos- Wedding Marigold Collection, Marigold Brocade Blouse & Mehendi, Payal Embellished Bridal Bouquet, Jimmy Choo ‘Laser’ Gold Sandal
I’ve been compiling a list of items for my Bridal Emergency Kit. I’ve categorized the essentials in this checklist. Some of the items might seem unnecessary, but I’ve included them because “you never know.” It’s better to be prepared for any type of situation. Your Maid of Honor or Mother can be the guardian of this sacred Emergency Kit so you will have everything at your fingertips in case something goes wrong (and I really hope it doesn’t!). It will also be comforting to know that you’ve tried to cover all bases by having this Emergency Kit.
I hope you find this list helpful, and please do not hesitate to contact me so I can update this list if you have any suggestions.